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“Renegade Grief is a tender, lived-in treasure trove of insight and care about how not just to get through grief, but to know how to live with this universal experience in modern life.”
Priya Parker, Author of The Art of Gathering
“In a world awash in pain, and increasingly defined by so much change and so many forms of loss, we need to know what she has been presciently learning on behalf of us all. This book is an offering to the struggle and art of being human, an essential tool for inhabiting this time in the life of the world."
Krista Tippett, Host of The On Being Podcast
From grief quests to altar-making, to dinner parties to Dungeons & Dragons, Renegade Grief is a profound and vulnerable exploration of care practices and rituals that empower grievers in a culture that expects us to simply “give it time.”
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So, you’ve lost someone.
At first, there is an outpour of support and phone calls and care packages. But after the services are done and the phone stops ringing, there is a quiet in the air and an expectation to get on with your life as previously planned.
The problem is that death has a way of making all plans go out the window. Renegade Grief offers the support in this next stage of grieving—when you feel isolated in your loss and are figuring out how to navigate it.
Shaped by her own experience with the death of her father and her time cofounding The Dinner Party, a leading peer-support organization for people who’ve experienced a major loss, Carla Fernandez pushes back on the death-denying culture we live in. For too long, grief has been treated as something pitiable, simply sad, to be gotten over as soon as possible. But after fifteen years of being in a community with fellow grievers, Carla has witnessed a different side of the story. Grieving a significant loss is hardcore, hardly something to be swept under the rug, but an experience to be held with respect, a creative spirit, and with friends. Through inspiring stories of real grievers, patterns from across history, and fresh science, Renegade Grief enlivens you with the permission and possibility to explore your grief in your own unique way and reminds you that you’re not alone in doing it.
Renegade Grief is an indispensable resource for people at any stage of the grieving process and with Carla’s candid and compassionate guidance, you learn that life after loss isn’t about the futile attempt of arriving at some other side. Rather, it’s about building your community, adjusting to change, and finding the way for your grief to become a pathway into your own version of a soulful life.
Early Praise for Renegade Grief
"A wonderfully relatable, insightful manual for how to live *into* grief – rather than run away from it. Filled with ritual inspiration and practical advice, Fernandez has written a book to nourish your soul."
Casper ter Kuile, Author of The Power of Ritual
"Who knew that grief was something we all need to practice? This book is an essential guide. I laughed, I cried, I entered a whole new reality."
Ann Friedman, Co-Author of Big Friendship: How We Keep Each Other Close
"Renegade Grief was an answer to a prayer I didn’t have the words for yet. Like water, this book poured itself into the wounds of grief I carried and unearthed countless pathways of holding both the sensitivity and profound sorrow that can arise from losing someone you love. Carla’s ability to gently yet powerfully guide the reader through one of the most turbulent landscapes any of us will face is astonishing. Each page cradles your sorrow like a beloved friend, whispering truths that feel both ancient and intimately yours. Renegade Grief does not rush the healing process, nor demand your joy before its time—it simply walks beside you as a companion through it all. This is not just a book; it is a sacred space where tears can fall freely and hope, like dawn, can begin to bloom again."
A. Helwa, Author of Secrets of Divine Love: A Spiritual Journey into the Heart of Islam
“An incisive, warm, inviting, illuminating and boldly practical guide for the grieving heart. These stories and tools offer a way forward and deeper understanding as life evolves after loss.”
Tembi Locke, Author of From Scratch: A Memoir of Love, Sicily, and Finding Home
"Carla Fernandez and The Dinner Party have been leading a quiet revolution for decades, borne of the tender insight that we must walk with, share, and metabolize grief and loss if we want to be healed and whole. Yet we do not know how to grieve in this society, and we leave ourselves and others isolated and floundering with loss.”
Krista Tippett, Host of The On Being Podcast